We have such great expectations for our babies don’t we?! I don’t think we intentionally put pressure on them to be anything at all but continual comments of “Oh I’m sure she’s going to be something fabulous like a Doctor or a Lawyer!” can stick in a child’s mind as they grow and whether you mean it to or not, that will soon become a burden that they themselves create.
Of course, as long as they grow up safe, healthy and happy it doesn’t really matter what they are, does it? I can remember talking with Alyssa’s dad when I was both pregnant and when she was a few months old. I think to start with, he was secretly disappointed he hadn’t had a boy he could take off to football (though that soon changed when he fell head over heels for his daddy’s girl) and so from before she was even born, he used to joke that he was going to take her to football practice and that she’d be amazing. I would laugh and say something like “Ha Ha Ha, fat chance – she’s off to ballet to become a Prima Ballerina” or something to that affect both awfully boxing her in and out of stereotypical roles but actually the truth is, it’s not really up to us, is it?
A few weeks ago she did infact start a dance class as it has been obvious for some time that music and dance are part of her soul. She loves every minute of it and the pride she so obviously displays when putting on her uniform is absolutely adorable. In a few months when she turns 3 she will move up to the next level and actually go into proper classes for ballet, tap and modern. But this isn’t set in stone. If it turns out she doesn’t enjoy it and that music and dance are merely something she wants to enjoy then that is absolutely fine and we can move on and find something else she is passionate about and this might have no baring on what she does in the future for a career.