There I was, just sat there minding my own business and I thought “Hey, I’ll check on my blog as I haven’t for a little while (like half a day…. or maybe a quarter) and see what my views were like for that day and see if I had had any comments left either.” OH MY GOODNESS… how I wish I hadn’t. No no panic not, there were no horrible trollish comments left on my latest ranty post(which I am sure is now going to be usurped by this one) it was much worse than that. No it wasn’t another domestic with someone because they didn’t like what I had written, even worse and NO it wasn’t someone letting me know I had broken all the blogging rules ever in existence and my blog was going to have to shut down forever more…it was even worse than that. Some god damn blogger had left a comment on one of my posts. A blogger!! I mean can you bloody well believe it?! I mean, I don’t do linkys anymore apart from the one’s that I host (but it wasn’t one of my hosts posts) I am not in any Facebook or Twitter pods and I haven’t link dropped because I never sodding well remember, so what the hell was going on?! Then it hit me – the swines had come to my blog, off their own steam, to read something I had written that then stimulated them into leaving a comment on my blog. I mean, how bloody dare they?! Don’t they know that my writing isn’t written for them. It’s written for non-bloggers. You know, human beings. Bloggers simply just don’t count…. Bollocks!
You’ll forgive the somewhat sarcastic nature of the opening paragraph but yes you’ve guessed it, I’m off on another rant again so brace yourself everyone, we’re going in. Now, I’m a blogger and in fact blogging is even my job so yayyyy I’m a blogger. However, correct me if I am wrong, but I am pretty sure the last time I checked, I was also a woman. Moreover, I am pretty sure I am also a mother, a daughter, a sister, an ex employee, an ex employer, an ex-girlfriend and all sorts of other things that make me human. I am a human being and despite what my life is sometimes like, blogging isn’t everything that I am. First and foremost I am a mother, hence the reason I only work when Alyssa is sleeping or on a play date, so you’ll forgive me for asking but, what the hell is the problem with a blogger commenting on another blogger’s post?!
You may be a little confused, allow me to explain. Now, lots of bloggers out there, myself included, do blog posts aimed at new bloggers giving them tips and tricks we have learnt or they do more in depth vlogs, posts, courses designed to teach bloggers how to “better” themselves in order “to go pro” in the blogging world. I think these posts are great and I cannot tell you how much they helped me when I first started blogging (you should check out my round-up of these “How to Blog Posts You Have to Read!”) but lately one comment has been cropping up on a few posts I’ve read and vlogs I have been watching and it has really got me annoyed. Apparently, we shouldn’t actively be seeking bloggers to like, follow and comment on our blogs because they don’t count – bloggers are not our target audience.
Okay, I can see both sides of this. Yes, of course unless you are specifically writing posts like my “How to Guide for Using Mail Chimp!” or “How to Get Noticed as a Blogger: Boobs and Arse!” then no bloggers are not your target audience. Depending on your niche it could be anyone from mothers to fathers to crafters to foodies… but isn’t it possible, that bloggers are these things to?! I completely understand, that having bloggers following you on social media can be damaging for your interaction; all these people follow you, no one interacts and then your reach drops, fair enough. However, what if a blogger follows you, not because they are a fellow blogger, but because they are a fellow mum, baker, crafter… human being?!
Granted, I myself have joined in many follow for follow threads to boost my numbers because at the end of the day let’s face it – as bloggers we need social media numbers if we are to have any hope of getting a job. However, as I said at the beginning, apart from the two linkys I run myself, I don’t take part in any other linkys anymore because I simply do not have the time and as successful as the linkys are, I am not sure that they account for over 10,000 views a month! So could it be, dare I say that bloggers are choosing to come and visit my site, read my blogs, comment on my posts because in some way they can relate?! Is it really so hard to remember that bloggers are human beings too?!
You know, if someone follows me, I don’t automatically follow them back. If they don’t have a bio, I don’t follow. If they have the words “wrap” or “juice plus” in their bio, I don’t follow back. However, if they have the word blogger or I like their feed then I do – I remember 14 months ago clicking follow on so many bloggers who seemed a million miles above me and oh the joy I experienced when one followed me back. It was like I was being accepted and welcomed into the community and I imagine a lot of other bloggers are the same. One of the reasons I started blogging was because I was lonely… so what would have happened if all those people had ignored me too?! What would have happened in the months to come, if I as a blogger hadn’t read some beautifully written posts, that helped keep me human and helped me to know I was doing everything I should be doing as both a new and newly single mother?!
From a statistics point of view, unless you are writing a whole series on “How to Blog” then bloggers are not your target audience – but what about the people behind the blog? What about the foodie who can’t get the smell of garlic out of their hands and needs advice? What about the mother and father who have been up all night and are running out of ideas on how to get the baby to sleep? What about the crafter who wants some suggestions on what to do with 6 kids a glue gun and a bag of pompoms? Don’t discount bloggers as just being bloggers because each and every one of them is so much more than that – and hey! If you’re that worried about your social reach dropping because of those damned inactive bloggers following you, why not pop them a message, or tweet them or tag them?! You may find that a little interaction from your side may bring them out of their blogging hibernation and who knows what might happen… you may even make a friend. A BLOGGER friend.