Staying in My Home

*This is a collaborative post.

Isn’t it strange that you never really consider your future and late years until you are part way through your life. Having children definitely changes you and you begin to see the world in a different way. I think having and creating my own home is something that is very important to me. I want to create a sense of being and belonging for my family. As a child we moved house multiple times and although I didn’t give it much thought when I was a child, the memories of each house blend into the next. There was no true sense of putting down roots and belonging. I would love to buy a forever home and it to be a place to make memories for Alyssa and and other children should they come along.

Christmases’  coming and going and the seasons changing as I watch my child grow. Having children seems to make life speed up and I have always had a deep desire to have one home and not to have to move my family as we did during my childhood. I know people do move, that’s just a fact of life, but there’s something comforting about knowing a home is forever. I guess I’m a bit of romantic when it comes to this sort of thing, but I feel like your house becomes a home and then that home becomes a part of you, and a part of your family. Keeping you safe and warm and as a family you also grow to love each and every corner of your home.

It’s like finding something that fits, and fits well and is comfortable. And when this happens why would you want to change it for something else? When I do find my forever home, I know I will not want to leave and I know this from right down in the depths of me. From a girl who wanted to travel and live the high life in big cities, I have morphed into a contented woman/ mother that wants to put down the strongest roots that nothing can rip up.

So when I consider that at some point in my life I will begin putting these roots firmly down, I ponder on what the future will bring. What will happen when I am of an age where I can’t walk the stairs anymore? Will this be the point that the roots are ripped from the ground? I have seen family friends sell up beautiful homes full of precious memories and reluctant elderly relations shipped off to apartments or bungalows. What can I do to avoid this happening in my twilight years? How can I ensure I won’t be one of those people who has to give up a part of them when health begins to fail?

I know it seems extraordinary to consider all of this when I’m still considered a young woman but it truly is important to me. So when I look for my forever home, I will be looking at how it will work for my older years as well as for when I raise my family. I will consider is the house suitable for example fitting curved stairlifts, if one is necessary,  is the garden on a slope or on one level? Does the front entrance have good access? Because I truly want my forever home to be just that!