Life as a Single Mum... Again!

Life as a single mum after a break-up is one of the hardest transitions life can throw at you. It’s a whirlwind of emotions – grief, guilt, anger, exhaustion – but also hope, strength, and the promise of a fresh start. Right now, it might feel overwhelming, but I know one thing for certain: we will get through this.

The emotional toll of a break-up, especially when children are involved, is immense. I’ve realised that if I want to support my child through this, I first need to take care of myself. That means allowing myself to feel every emotion, without guilt or shame. Some days will be better than others, and that’s okay. I’m learning to be kind to myself, to ask for help when I need it, and to find moments of peace in the chaos.

Self-care isn’t just bubble baths and spa days – it’s setting boundaries, saying no to things that drain me, eating well, getting enough rest, and making time for the things that bring me joy. I deserve happiness, even if it takes time to rediscover what that looks like.

Seeing my child navigate their own feelings of confusion and hurt is the hardest part of this journey. I know I can’t take their pain away, but I can be their safe space. I’m making sure they know it’s okay to talk about their feelings, to cry, to ask questions. I’m reminding them every day that they are so loved, so valued, and that this isn’t their fault.

Consistency and reassurance are key. I might not have all the answers, but I can give them stability in the ways that matter most – love, routine, and presence.

This isn’t the life I imagined, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be beautiful. I’m rediscovering myself, building a new life that is filled with love, resilience, and possibility. Being a single mum doesn’t mean I’m alone. I’m learning to lean on my support system – friends, family, even online communities of mums who understand this journey.

The tough days will come, but so will the moments of laughter, the bedtime cuddles, the milestones we’ll celebrate together. This new chapter is scary, but it’s also a chance to rebuild, to heal, and to create a life filled with happiness – not just for my child, but for me too.

Healing isn’t linear. Some days will be harder than others, and that’s okay. What matters is that we keep going. I deserve joy, peace, and love. My child deserves a happy, healthy mum. And together, we will come out stronger.

To any other single mums going through this – you are not alone, and you are stronger than you think.

One day at a time, we’ll get there.