Now, since I first began blogging a few months ago, a term that I have heard used a lot is TRIBE. Sooooo many bloggers, on their lists of Top Blogging Tips, suggest putting yourself out there and finding a group of people that you click with, that support you and that you can share all your highs and lows with. A good way to do this is to be an avid social media user and to be a friendly blogger by reading and commenting on peoples posts, joining linkies and other blog chats to get yourself out there.
However, what if you are not an outgoing person? What if you are quite shy and find it hard to put yourself out there? I have met a lot of wonderful people in the past few months, who have almost nurtured me and my blog and given me a really huge kick start. But, I don’t feel like I am on the same level as them. They are old hands, pros, who are established and have broken through the barrier into career bloggers. I aspire to be them and love that they involve me and so appreciate the help! However, I sometimes feel like when you are at school and you are trying to play with the big girls… you don’t want to become a nuisance either I hide behind my blog, as it puts on a much braver face than I do but in truth I’d like someone to talk to (I know sounding slightly like the awkward girl at school again right now!)
So I sat down and had a thought…. how do we find what we are missing in real life? We use Dr.Google the fountain of all knowledge as we know it but I am not sure he really has the answer this time (blasphemous I know!!)
So what else can we do to find what we are missing? Of course, take out a personal ad! I have never done this before in my life, or in fact answered one, though I have been a part of online dating websites and that, needless, to say did not go well and was more like a cattle market! But would an ad, asking to find a tribe seem pretentious, mocking, distasteful, ridiculous? Who knows?! I do have quite a sad image of a mini-me in my head knocking on peoples doors, sounding like Oliver… “Please sir, can I have some more love/attention/affection/conversation /friendship?” There is of course the other matter, that surely friendship cannot be advertised for can it? It happens naturally, accidentally or coincidentally… but can you really advertise for a friend?
Age: 30 (still just)
D.O.B: 2nd March 1985
Marital Status: Very Single
Height: 5’4″ (I swear!!)
Weight: Let’s not go there!
Children: 1 Daughter (7 months)
Occupation: Has been teacher – wannabe blogger! Currently admin!
Siblings: 1 sister and 1 brother
Pets: Barley the Cat… who thinks he’s someone else’s!
Likes: Reading, writing, singing, dancing, coffee, cooking, cinema….
Dislikes: Mean people, bad photos, running (not with my boobs) , nuts and fruit in food (I mean WTF!), being late, letting people down
Describe Yourself: Hi, I am Katie. A single mummy from Dorset in the UK. I have a wonderful little girl who is a handful but lights up my world. I am currently finishing my maternity leave but who knows what will happen then. My goal in life is to be able to work from home. My biggest achievement, besides my daughter, would be performing on the West end. My bravest moment was, with 5 days notice, moving to Sicily to be an English teacher for 3 years. I like walks on the beach, play dates in the park, random early morning chats, and a good chin wag over coffee (and the odd cake when the diet allows!) GSOH seeks like minded people to form tribe to take over the world!
Ideal First Meet: Probably on a social media platform somewhere. A tweet back an forth, maybe a hash tag moment or even a tag and see how things go from there!
I have to say, that towards the end of my profile, I was laughing to myself slightly! I don’t think this could really work – I mean as I said previously friendship and relationships come naturally and build over time. You can’t expect a new BFF automatically over night (despite what Paris Hilton tried to do with THAT television show!) So, although it would make things a hell of a lot easier, us newbies will just have to bide our time and wait patiently like good little bloggers, until our soul tribe comes along!
In the meantime…
All those wishing to join a tribe, please leave your profile applications in the comments below!