You’ll forgive the somewhat sarcastic nature of the opening paragraph but yes you’ve guessed it, I’m off on another rant again so brace yourself everyone, we’re going in. Now, I’m a blogger and in fact blogging is even my job so yayyyy I’m a blogger. However, correct me if I am wrong, but I am pretty sure the last time I checked, I was also a woman. Moreover, I am pretty sure I am also a mother, a daughter, a sister, an ex employee, an ex employer, an ex-girlfriend and all sorts of other things that make me human. I am a human being and despite what my life is sometimes like, blogging isn’t everything that I am. First and foremost I am a mother, hence the reason I only work when Alyssa is sleeping or on a play date, so you’ll forgive me for asking but, what the hell is the problem with a blogger commenting on another blogger’s post?!
You may be a little confused, allow me to explain. Now, lots of bloggers out there, myself included, do blog posts aimed at new bloggers giving them tips and tricks we have learnt or they do more in depth vlogs, posts, courses designed to teach bloggers how to “better” themselves in order “to go pro” in the blogging world. I think these posts are great and I cannot tell you how much they helped me when I first started blogging (you should check out my round-up of these “How to Blog Posts You Have to Read!”) but lately one comment has been cropping up on a few posts I’ve read and vlogs I have been watching and it has really got me annoyed. Apparently, we shouldn’t actively be seeking bloggers to like, follow and comment on our blogs because they don’t count – bloggers are not our target audience.
Okay, I can see both sides of this. Yes, of course unless you are specifically writing posts like my “How to Guide for Using Mail Chimp!” or “How to Get Noticed as a Blogger: Boobs and Arse!” then no bloggers are not your target audience. Depending on your niche it could be anyone from mothers to fathers to crafters to foodies… but isn’t it possible, that bloggers are these things to?! I completely understand, that having bloggers following you on social media can be damaging for your interaction; all these people follow you, no one interacts and then your reach drops, fair enough. However, what if a blogger follows you, not because they are a fellow blogger, but because they are a fellow mum, baker, crafter… human being?!
Granted, I myself have joined in many follow for follow threads to boost my numbers because at the end of the day let’s face it – as bloggers we need social media numbers if we are to have any hope of getting a job. However, as I said at the beginning, apart from the two linkys I run myself, I don’t take part in any other linkys anymore because I simply do not have the time and as successful as the linkys are, I am not sure that they account for over 10,000 views a month! So could it be, dare I say that bloggers are choosing to come and visit my site, read my blogs, comment on my posts because in some way they can relate?! Is it really so hard to remember that bloggers are human beings too?!
You know, if someone follows me, I don’t automatically follow them back. If they don’t have a bio, I don’t follow. If they have the words “wrap” or “juice plus” in their bio, I don’t follow back. However, if they have the word blogger or I like their feed then I do – I remember 14 months ago clicking follow on so many bloggers who seemed a million miles above me and oh the joy I experienced when one followed me back. It was like I was being accepted and welcomed into the community and I imagine a lot of other bloggers are the same. One of the reasons I started blogging was because I was lonely… so what would have happened if all those people had ignored me too?! What would have happened in the months to come, if I as a blogger hadn’t read some beautifully written posts, that helped keep me human and helped me to know I was doing everything I should be doing as both a new and newly single mother?!